I guess I got tired of masking so I recently found out that my dating behaviors have inadvertently changed as well. Someone I recently dated said that I said inappropriate things that I should not have said to someone else.

What I said were general observations of things she told me about, which she found them to be true, but her friends think they are red flags. For example, she shared this and that happened to her. I saw a pattern, so I said, something like, "oh so you're a [pattern] collector". We had a good laugh about it and she kept recalling it in future dates, but she recently shared that her friends think that's a red flag.

She also mentioned that I would give positive affirmations but on the wrong things. Though I feel like when I do them on the things that she wants, she turns them down, and so when I course correct and not say much on that, she feels hurt 🤦🏽‍♂️

I feel like anytime I mention things I do that has to do with being in the spectrum, it gets shut down as if I'm making excuses. I believe she's also in the spectrum and she does the same thing all the time. Anyway we broke up, so I don't need any advice on this specific case.

Just wondering if anyone have any tips/tricks for not saying things that others might feel offensive on early dates? Or any other dating tips would be greatly appreciated. Thank you very much! I'm 30 btw, so in a more difficult dating pool 😅