Hello Reddit, so I have been dealing with something for a bit now and it’s new and a bit weird.

I do NOT like to orgasm during sex. I realized it during some alone time with my gf. I was so into what was happening, every sensation felt so good that when i came the feeling didn’t satisfy me. I was getting more enjoyment from everything else

I am at the point now that I stop myself from coming and it frustrates my gf because she thinks that she isn’t “doing her job”

How do I tell her that I love having sex with her but I just don’t feel the need or WANT to cum everytime. I get way more enjoyment in the act than the outcome, I’m also addicted to and get off on the pleasure of my gf. It seems so foreign to her though. I don’t want her to think I’m not attracted to her….it actually quite the opposite