Guy I've known a while (who's in what he called an open relationship) has been pushing to hang out. Finally invited me on a coast trip, but I couldn't go bc rehearsal. Said we should meet at a place for coffee on his way out. I said sure.

Said this morning he should just come to my house instead. I figured why not, he could bring the donut he's said he owed me. I said maybe we could fool around a little.

I only offered a bj. The first thing he did was want to kiss. I didn't want to, but was caught so off guard I agreed. I did blow him, but during, he wanted my shirt off. I said I wasn't comfortable with that. He said it would help him get hornier. So I relented. He wanted to fuck me, but I wouldn't let him.

He said that he wanted to do a play with me years ago, bc he knew he could stage kiss me every night. He also tried to offer sex years ago when I was in a monogamous relationship. I'm worried he's been trying to force all this to happen for a long time.

Technically, everything I did do, I consented to. But I don't feel good. Kind of manipulated, and violated. He also told me when we were done, that he hadn't told his gf (a close friend of mine) we were going to fool around.

Am I overreacting or was it bad?

Edit: have rehearsal now. I'll try to respond when I can/later