I am a 31 year old man who has not lost his virginity. The main reasons being that I have struggled dating wise due to being autistic and having mental health issues. I also have never had good self esteem or confidence so I’m probably the worst ever at flirting.

I also would prefer my first time to be with someone I care for, I don’t want to wait for marriage but I also don’t want to fuck the first willing woman I meet either just to say I had sex. For this reason I don’t see myself utilizing a sex worker to lose my virginity either. I have nothing against sex work though. I’ve never been much into the idea of ONSs or FWBs either.

I’m curious though, if you are in the same boat as me, why haven’t you lost your virginity? Do you even still want to lose it at this point or is it not a big deal to you anymore that you’re still a virgin? I feel like the stigma around “late-bloomers” like us is going away and that we are much more accepted in society now.

I am asking the question here because the few “virgin” themed subs I’ve come across on Reddit are very incel/red-pilled and toxic in my experience.