So I've been dating this guy now for a month and last night we went on a discord session to tell him that this is us 1 month dating and asked him what his take in dating me and how he's been doing. I opened up the discord sesh because I want to point out the fact that I've been noticing that our chat has become lesser and lesser since last week and if it's concerning for me I want to point it out because I really do like dating him he is an absolutely very nice, fun, and caring guy.

He apologized to his infrequent responses to my chats and he told me that he is still at the stage of not committing, which hey I understand I'm not rushing him I like the slow process what I'm scared of is if our situation will not last long. He told me what he is aiming for and I also told him what I am aiming for in our situation which is a long term relationship, I know to myself that I am ready for a relationship cause I know I deserve someone who I can love and can love me back it's just him who is not ready for a commitment, I told him we can work things out together and let's see how things will turn out.

He also told me that he is still open for dating someone else and it's okay for him as well if I am dating someone else aside from him. I like what we have right now and I wish I can handle all the results of how this situation we have right now whether or not we'll end up being together.

Edit: I forgot to mention why he is not yet ready for a commitment, he doesn't want to just jump in to a relationship and discovering that the person they are with is not as to what they think or in another way around (I'm trying to remember what he said to me so sorry if im not making sense here) due to his past relationships, he doesn't want that he put too much effort and he is not getting what he want or in return but I told him and assured to him that he doesn't need to give too much effort in our dating because putting too much effort is not really for someone but to ourselves, don't expect something in return and just do things just cause you want to not cause your partner wants you to. I mentioned to him that I care a lot to others not because I want to feel the same affection as what I am giving but because it's really who I am as a person, I care a lot to others' wellbeing it is not something that I wish that others can do it to me in return rather it's just me being me and he can be him with me if he wants to.

Edit 2: I have decided to tell him that I don't feel like this dating situation will work and I don't know if I still want to continue this. We're supposed to hang out with this Friday night we planned it already since I never got the chance to meet up with him last weekend but then again he got some priorities and I can't stop him from that. I don't mind if we don't get to meet up weekly so long as we keep on chatting, we used to chat a lot like even though I'm busy at work I still reply fast he's the first person to greet me good morning even though he wakes up at 1pm and we would chat till I go to bed, but then he changed he doesn't chat anymore I'm the one who starts every conversation and he would either reply late or never at all, I used to be timid at the first few days of us talking till I became more comfortable with him and open up more, he even made me say "I miss you" to him and I don't usually say those words his quirkiness and charm was the one that made me want to pursue on dating him, I don't care about hanging out or treating me dinner, cooking me food, inviting me to his house, so long as we still have connections I'm all content. Since he told me the reason why he changed I will change too, I don't feel the spark in him anymore and I don't know and I don't care if we can ever go back like we used to before, I want to tell him this in person cause I want to meet him one last time, I'm not good at explaining in chat as well so I have no plans of telling him this in chat... and I also left my towel in his condo so I need to get it back hehehe, let me know y'all thoughts on this. And sorry for the long ass convo, this will be the last time I will update this post but I can still respond to some of y'all's comments.