Y’all. We’ve been together 18 months. I’m his first, but he isn’t mine.

He has to pull out and jerk off every time we have sex. He can go for 3 hours (not fun, I don’t stay wet), and won’t finish.

I’ve tried putting in more passion, even introduced toys to our sex life, and breaking my comfort zone when giving oral. Not once has he finished.

I’ve brought it up before, and he said not to worry about it! The last thing I want to do is make him feel ashamed by bringing it up again. I’ve just never had this issue with past relationships.

And recently, the last time we had sex, he went soft and failed to get an erection again. I nearly cried.

My friends all tell me to dump him, since I’m still 21 and “could be with any other guy with a bigger, better schlong,” but that’s rather extreme.

We regretfully only have sex around once a month, but now I’m too anxious to initiate. I’m tired of being stressed about sex.

But what if it really is my fault, regardless of what he says. I’m definitely not model quality, but I’m not ugly, either. And if my exes have one good thing to say about me, well… But that can’t be helped if he’s just not attracted to me, I guess.

Edit: To clarify, he became soft before we even really begun. And my friends don’t like him mainly because he didn’t jump to protect me when someone pulled a gun one time. :/

I’ve discussed porn addiction with him, but he claimed he only watches 1-2 times a week.