My wife (40s F) and I (40s M) are trying to respark our sex life which has dwindled in the last few years mainly due to both of us being busy tired working parents. We have been curious about tantric massage/bodywork as a way to explore together and maybe reignite our sex drive - but beyond the buzzwords it is really hard to get a sense of what actually happens during a couples tantric massage session, i.e. who is touching who and how, and how exactly is the couple experiencing this together?

I'm just looking for anyone with any experience on this topic for some insight into how a couple curious about this stuff might learn what they're getting into before taking the plunge. Thanks.