Hi - new to this community so I will try to keep it short and worth replying to.

My wife and I (40s hetero couple) are deeply committed to each other but unfortunately our sex life has stalled over the years mostly due to us being tired busy working parents. My wife has been curious about some kind of sex work or sex therapy that might unlock her libido or help her find her desire again - neither of us know much about "tantric massage" but it sounds like something in that realm is what she's after. Another option is to hire an escort, which is a little clearer to me what that entails. I would be open to trying any of this, either with her or let her experiment solo (with boundaries) if it might spark things up between us again. My questions are:

Anecdotally, is there a type of sex work or worker you might recommend for helping someone reconnect with their sexual self? Anyone out there worked with couples/individuals in this situation?

Can someone describe the experience of a tantric (or similar) massage for women or for a couple together so we know what we might be getting into?

Also I have read the "how to find a safe SW" post, but male SWs are less common, less reviewed and IMO harder to tell who is legit and professional and who is a random dude with a website, particularly when talking about massage. If we go that route, any advice for finding a good person? Would love to hear from any male SWs or tantra practitioners about their work with partnered female clients.

Thank you for reading!