My ex [31/M] and I [28/F] were together for 3 years. Toward the end of the relationship I had gotten a job offer in a different city about 6 hrs away by car. At first, he reassured me he would do what it took to figure it out with me. Shortly thereafter he started to pull away, and when I confronted him about it he dropped a bomb and broke up with me on the spot. We had been living together already and it sucked.

I’ve been in my current relationship now for 2 years, long distance for the past year. The plan all along has been that he [31/M] would move to me and we discussed plans for making it happen in July. Well the past week he has been a bit off. Finally tonight on the phone he brought up a handful of concerns, including fears surrounding finding work where I live and being very far away from his mother. These are some of the same things my ex cited when he dumped me. My body is saying withdraw. I feel alarm bells going off and feel my body tensing up anticipating a repeat of last time. But it’s hard to know if this is my gut instinct and is to be trusted or if it’s my anxious attachment style kicking in. It’s hard I hate it. I’ve been trying really hard to heal from my AA and become secure, and thought I was making a lot of progress until now.