hi all,

i have some extreme anger issues towards my mother. she is an opiate addict, and her use only worsened after a medical malpractice incident 10 years ago that left her disabled. her drug use makes her act erratically, but when she is “lucid”, she is a kind person and has always supported me emotionally and financially.

i can hardly stand to be around her. i yell at her for things like breathing or eating too loud. sometimes i say mean things and call her names. whenever i’m not around her, i have a clear head and know that i love her. the second i see or talk to her, i hate her.

i know the anger i feel is less about her and more about life. how can i stop treating her this way?

i recently moved back home after graduating college, so we see each other a lot nowadays