Hey Reddit,

I'm (M31) currently in a relationship with my girlfriend (F35) and visiting my parents for around three weeks.

My parents are living in a other country so it's not that I see them very often and the last visit was at the beginning of this year.

During my stay I mostly work remotely at my daily job and spend time with my parents. They are both in their early sixties so it was also du to their age important to me to spend some time with them.

Before traveling to my parents I mentioned to my girlfriend the idea of spending a whole weekend alone - so going somewhere and just do something by myself. Which is maybe also quite good, cause after a longer period with only my parents it might get a bit exhausting. For her this was a good idea, cause I use this time to be a bit alone, do something nice and reflect some thoughts.

So on the second day I had a video call with my girlfriend and mentioned that next weekend I think about going alone to a larger city, visit and go to some kind of SPA. Just to chill, relax and think about something.

This information leaded to questions like:

Why am I choosing this city? Am I just going to there to make party without her? Why am I not going to this city or place with her? I probably don't want to spend time with her? Etc.

I was surprised by this as we two spend a lot of time together and I understand that she thought my time alone could be something more like "me alone in the woods" but doing it this way seemed like a nice idea.

After our call I talked to her again and she was and is still mad and said she lost the "feel of security in our relationship" due to my behavior.

I understand that she can have different feelings, but of course I don't want to do anything which hurts her and therefore I decided to not make the solo Weekend-Trip.

For me it's just difficult to understand how something like this can become a bigger problem, despite the fact we talked about it before.

AITA for doing a Solo-Trip to a city while being in a relationship?