I (22F) am getting married to my fiancee (29M) next year. Our wedding isn’t going to be super extravagant, as we only wanted to celebrate with our friends and family. A lot of the things for our wedding are going to be simple, DIY, with the help of our friends/family, etc. The main thing we absolutely wanted was our wedding venue. We instantly knew it was the one and we wanted a specific date ( our 3 year first date anniversary). Unfortunately, our venue told us this date was not available and so we chose a date a few weeks after. It was around this time that we announced our wedding party.

Flash forward to about 2 weeks ago when we got a call from our venue saying that the date we originally wanted had opened up. We were thrilled so we moved our wedding back. We didn’t have any reservations about doing this because everyone who was coming to the wedding is relatively local and hadn’t made any travel accommodations yet. We told our guests about the change and everyone was fine until I got a call from my best friend and maid of honor.

She said that the wedding was now her birthday (which I obviously knew) and that her and her boyfriend were going to go on a trip that week. I was shocked as I hadn’t heard of these plans before, but I just told her that I really wanted her to be at my wedding because she is my best friend in the world. She told me it was unfortunate that the wedding date moved, but that her trip was already paid for and mostly non-refundable. I was crying at this point, and just said how this is unfair and how upset I am. She said I didn’t have a reason to be this upset because I moved the date without telling anyone and someone was bound to not be able to go anymore. Some words were exchanged then (basically us going back and forth and bringing up old conflicts) and she hung up on me.

Our mutual friends see her point and think that I should “get over it”. However, I think it’s unfair that she would drop out of my wedding so easily because of a small change (literally 21 days). AITA?