Posts come up on my timeline constantly from men who have impregnated women, left them, and proudly take no interest in their child's life and refuse to pay child support.

The general opinion of such men I've seen I'm broader society has been low. They're seen as babies who refuse to take responsibility, want to have their cake and eat it, and cause destruction wherever they go. Growing up, everyone I knew who didn't have a dad suffered emotionally because of it. It caused a lot of harm feeling unloved and unwanted, and it was just broadly regarded as a shitty thing to do.

I go on Reddit and there are so many people frothing at the mouth, basically begging for a chance to tell men "there's nothing wrong with abandoning your child!!", "you have a right to create people but not give a fuck about them afterwards!!", and gearing up to blame the woman for not wanting to have an invasive medical procedure that could be traumatic if it's unwanted on an emotional level (I'm pro choice obviously. But that means actually being pro choice. Including the choice to keep a baby).

While I try not to be judgemental towards other people's choices, it strikes me as insane that people actively encourage something that could really hurt children. Especially young boys. It also strikes me as completely detached from reality. Everyone knows that birth control isn't 100% effective, and that the buck ends with the pregnant person if they get pregnant. Anyone who doesn't like this fact can get a vasectomy if they want. But engaging in a calculated risk and then trying to avoid the consequences when things go wrong... They're just completely detached from biology and reality at this point.