Basically, I need an abortion and have been reaching out to my friends for support throughout the process. I lived with my one friend, we’ll call her Lisa, until very recently but moved out to live with my partner. Even though we no longer live together, and even though she knows the stress I’m currently under, Lisa continues to push my boundaries. She essentially invited herself to my upcoming medical appointments even though I never asked her to do this and would rather she not be there. Then, the other day, she texted me to offer to bring me some “pick me up treats” and when I didn’t respond right away because of my nausea, she texted my partner to see if I was napping instead of waiting for my response.

Then, I accidentally had nausea medication ordered to our old shared apartment and asked her to bring it up to me since my new place is in the same building. She came up and I cried to her about dreading my ultrasound appointment due to the difficult circumstances. Within an hour she texted me a photo of a mutual friend’s sister’s 7 week ultrasound, which I believe is about the stage I’m in. I never wanted to see a photo of the ultrasound and feel that this was a huge breach of emotional safety in our relationship, as again just minutes prior I had confided in her about my complicated and challenging feelings specifically about the ultrasound. She chalked this up to “thoughtlessness” and gave a weak apology a day after I told her how upsetting this was. I have trouble imagining how she could be so obtuse. Am I overreacting?