So, I made a similar post the other day to give people online some warning signs. I decided to make one again because of another post I read in here. Anyway, here's my original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AgeGap/s/Ev4Y2saCvf

Oh, another reason is so that people don't have to go through the struggles that myself and others went through to find "love."

Some of you may or may agree with me. Feel free to be honest. Just keep in mind honesty without compassion is abuse.

With any guy that I chat with online I question what they're seeking ofc. Get passed the initial greetings and then I'll ask: "Are you single or?"

Most guys will tell me the truth: married, dating, separated, gf, single, etc.

Then go from there... With most guys who are taken (including separated) I'll place them into the category of: chat buddies, platonic friendships, or maybe flirt with.

I ALWAYS remind myself not to get emotionally attached. This is because it alleviates the chances of breaking up a relationship, becoming someone's mistress, or falling into a "trap."

Ladies remember this. If a guy is constantly complaining about their unhealthy relationship it's OK to listen. However, it's not our responsibility to make them happy. That's their choice. They have friends, family, and can seek therapy too. They make the choice to stay in their relationship. Also, keep in mind that there are two parties in a relationship. They both have their positive and negative traits. Both parties played their parts.

This one catches people off guard sometimes, but SEPARATED DOESN'T mean single. It means they're on a break.

Going through a divorce DOESN'T mean divorced.

Recently divorced DOESN'T mean ready for a relationship. Consider the potential baggage they may still carry.

"I only date 18-25" = I only care about those who are youthful. Mainly for sex, to boost their ego, etc.

"You're very mature for your age." Does not mean you're very experienced.

Physical abuse is not the only form of abuse. Look up gaslighting and so forth.

If you're underage and talking to a guy in their 20s or older be careful. Even if it seems platonic. They may be grooming you.

PLEASE DO NOT BE AFRAID TO REPORT SOMEONE FOR SEXUAL ASSAULT. It was not your fault. If they lose whatever they have that's on them. They were the ones who sexually assaulted you.

It's OK for someone to spoil you. E. G. Shopping dinner, paying your bills, etc. . Periodt. Enjoy it! Younger guys will do it too. But make sure you have some income coming in on your own too just in case shit hits the fan or if you want some independence.

Relationships don't mean someone will save you from your misery.

Most guys who seek partners 25 are leaning more towards an ltr. It raises the potential that their partner may be more established in their career(s), foundation, goals, etc.

Men who are constantly degrading you will treat other partners the same way. It's not your fault. It's nothing personal at all. Periodt.

Older guys aren't the only ones that will want you.

If you're a virgin don't post that online. I'd suggest not mentioning it until you're dating or in a relationship.

Your friends and family may not understand your choice in men, but they more than likely care about you. They wouldn't say anything if they didn't value you. Consider their words. Just listen to what they're attempting to communicate.

A simple way of learning about someone is to ask them questions then watch, actively listen, and learn. They'll tell you a lot about them including their intentions, interests, etc.

This one is very important to remember. You're Only Young Once! There's no going back. Periodt. Appreciate your youth. Own it. Enjoy your life. Don't ever let your man hold you back from your goals or wanting to explore life or wanting to have fun with your family and friends.

Remember this. Some older men date younger women because of their looks, age, and lack of experience. They want character traits they can no longer obtain alone because there's no going back in time. They know this. So, if you're dating an older man make sure you're treated with respect. Don't be afraid to stand your ground and set your boundaries.

Most of all you're not alone.

Thanks for reading.