Friends or foe

So me and my boyfriend share the same friends (even though we both have some that we aren’t friends with)

So the other day I texted one of his friends who I “thought” and was told Was my friend also Mind you I wasn’t in the greatest state (Recently I’ve been in the process of changing antidepressants so I’m currently going through withdrawals, meanwhile I’m starting a new job )

I texted this friend on August 10th This was the text

“So I started a new job Can You convince (my boyfriend) to hurry up get his mhic and become like at least some what affordable so I can also work under him and be his secretary and work with him And not have to work a 9-5 job that literally makes no sense Thanks Btw you’re already hired on the spot hope you know “

Honestly yes my text can be taken the wrong way it honestly was

Our friend thought I was complaining about my boyfriend when honestly it was the opposite i was complaining about my job because I feel like a glorified secretary and I’m so bored. Like I miss working with my boyfriend which I did in my previous job

today around 7 pm my boyfriend got a call from this friend telling him that I was saying stuff about him Which yeah upsets my boyfriend and it causes a fight between me and him For my boyfriend thinks he’s not doing enough and that I’m saying he’s not enough or doing enough for me

I instantly Text this friend

“Look I said that thing about my job because honestly its eh and because I was more pissed about my job You saying whatever you said to (boyfriend ) made him upset with me so right now I’m not to happy because I feel like I can’t trust you in any way and that the one person I care about truly hates me at the moment because they think that I don’t believe there good enough because I decided to rant about my job issues to a friend “

In which they as in the friend texted me

“I feel like this is something that needs to be talked about in person, when can we meet up. “

I texted back

“It’s fine”

The friend texted back with

“It’s not, (my boyfriend) is my long term friend and if you are going to be dating him, then this is something that needs to talked about, not just shoved under the rug. All three of us should talk “

In which I responded with

“Why ? Look I am sorry I was out of line in general okay “

I haven’t gotten a response nor do I want one for what that so called friend said honestly was like wow

I need advice because I don’t know where to look at this

Because yes I know I messed up

I am upset that my boyfriend keeps saying that I can trust and talk to so called friend if this friend is just gonna tattle on me like a kid My boyfriend says I don’t trust is his friends when why should I especially trust this friend at least

What did he mean by the (my boyfriend) is my long term friend and if you are going to be dating him, statement