I don’t do well with family matters at all. In fact I’m so bad with family matters I haven’t seen any of my own family in 25 plus years. My friends families for some reason have the same instant dislike for me as well. I’m sure it’s for whatever reason it is my fault, but what last night hit me below the belt so hard that I almost broke down tears.

I have a very good friend that has been requesting my help with her dad. Simple enough, I help get his medication, cook for him, and see that his needs are met. I even helped out when her sister showed up to take care of him. My friend, her sister, and I developed a strong bond over asking care of their dad. In recent trips to help my friend out her dad’s health changed, he was getting stronger, yet expecting me to do everything for him like I was his servant and that really pissed me off. Why did it affect me so bad? Well because in the middle of the night he’s capable of getting up to go pee, get his own water, plug in his own phone and more. Yet during the day every 15 minutes he demands me to get things for him. I started telling him what my friend says to him "you got to get up and get it yourself, you need the exercise. I’m here to make sure you take your medicine, to feed you, and to make sure you don’t fall. All your extra demands from this point forward will have to be done by you!" That did not sit well with him at all. My friend mentioned Thanksgiving last night, I said "You know this is a family day, your kids are coming home and your sister is coming up with her family. It kind of makes me a little uncomfortable to come down." Her dad pipes up and says "Don’t show up, it’s going to be too crowded." My friend says "Dad that’s not nice at all!". Then he repeats what he just said several times over and over.

The sting of those words shook me to my core for some reason. It brought memories of being told by my parents they didn’t want me home for Christmas.

What does a person do in this circumstance?