Hey all, first time posting here, mobile formatting, etc.

I have a friend who I became very close with over the past year, as they were supportive of me during some personal issues I was dealing with (we are both females). We are/have been very comfortable with each other and have made an effort to call each other every day, text, and visit when possible (though I have moved a few towns away).

My problem is, I am starting to feel as if I have outgrown this friend. Our situations are very different and I am finding it much harder to empathize with them now than in the past.

For example, they are 30 years old and live with their parents, have been attending college for 8 years now (B.A). They do not drive and have no interest in driving. Though they complain about their family constantly, they also rely on family members to drive them, every day, to classes and part time job. They complain about being single, yet either refuse to date or self-destruct when they have an interested party. This is, of course, always the other person's fault/loss.

On the other hand, I moved out of my parent's home at 19 and am now a junior in college at 20. I do not parallel our situations, as I had much more support to leave home and drive at an early age, etc. I also, in college, have held many leadership roles and usually balance 3-4 part time jobs with classes. I now have an apartment I share with my boyfriend and pets. We have two cars and, basically, hustle every day to remain independent.

I love my friend, but they constantly complain about everything-- how hard classes are, how they're always broke, their horrible family, other college students, their one leadership role in an organization, and more. The negativity is killing me. They are also entitled to my time, telling me to "rescue them" by driving 50 minutes to pick them up and have dinner with them.

I am not sure what to do. This friend helped me through difficult circumstances, but refuses to help themselves. Any thoughts?