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Famililess for the upcoming holidays. If no one thinks to ask, would it be rude to ask to go to someones house? If not, how should I ask?
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So, long story short, all my bio family is dead/estranged/addicted/toxic or some combination of the four.

I was married until earlier this year, so we would just go to his family gatherings, no big deal.

I no longer have that option, and really would rather not be alone for the holidays.

There are two friends and their families that have opened up to me through the divorce that I think wouldn't mind having me around. I realized not long after he'd left I'd be in this situation, and mentioned it to both of them. Neither one has said anything yet, I know its early. But I'd rather not be a last minute drop in and feel like I'm imposing more than I already will (yay anxiety!).

A mom-aged person from work offered, but she has kids at home, and I'd super feel like I was crashing, especially because I've never met them.

I was playing around with the idea of posting something to Facebook (hidden from family that's on there, that I only have added so they can't claim they thought I was dead in a ditch somewhere since I didn't answer them in a timely enough for them fashion. Which apparently gives them the excuse to call the police in an attempt to control me. Fun) along the lines of "Hey! Who wants to adopt me for the holidays? I'll bring homemade pies or cookies!" (not to brag, but I'm an awesome baker, so legit incitement lol)

Totally Millennial way to handle it though, and might come across kinda sad lol.

But yea, basically at a loss about what to do. Becoming closer to estranged family really isn't an option, because it will put me in contact with the toxic ones I'm avoiding.

Any advice, tips, or anything really welcome :) TIA!

EDIT typed it weird, so it looked like friends have offered. They haven't.

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