My Gf (20F) and I (22M) of 1 year are currently struggling with our libidos. My Gf has never had a high libido, she has been on birth control for the past 3 years, and has recently stopped her bc in hopes of increasing her libido. I have always had a high libido.

On average she comes over 3 times a week. All was well for the first few months, but once the honeymoon phase wore off so did our sex. It’s gotten to the point where we have sex once a week, if that (she has a busy schedule being a full-time final year uni student, working 35 hrs a week). Now I’m fine with sex once a week, that’s what i’d say my minimum would be but if it’s any less than that I start to feel not wanted.

I’ve discussed my concerns with my gf, she has understood my feelings but stated that she can’t increase her sex drive. I understand this.

I’ve tried asking her to initiate sex, so I don’t feel rejected as much because that doesn’t feel good either. She hasn’t initiated sex as she didn’t feel like sex. (she has probably initiated 3 times since we started dating)I love her but I feel like we’re at a stalemate. Is there any other suggestions that you guys could recommend to help us with our conflicting libidos. (This had been written by both of us)