I just realized how much trauma I have from being adopted. I'm a 33 yo male who's on my second marriage. I've been nitpicking, controlling, (obviously) terrified of abandonment, and have some difficulties in the sex department (extra controlling). My bio parents met in a bar and here I am. She was married to another man and my half brother and sister were in foster care. I've been horribly judgemental and insecure, but was unaware of it until more recently. I'm finding out that it all stems from being the result of a hookup. I mean, it's pretty obvious in some ways, but it's the function of a lot of behaviors that I didn't really understand until tonight. Hit me like a ton of bricks tonight.

Has anyone else struggled with anything like this?