A few years ago, I went to a Chris Brown concert with my then boyfriend. Chris Brown is my favorite artist, i bought the tickets and was thrilled to be in the front row. During one of his songs, he pointed directly at me and invited me on stage. I looked over at my boyfriend, and he just smiled and gave me a thumbs up, so I went up to the stage.

While I was up there, Chris gave me a lap dance like he usually does with the fans he calls on stage. It was an incredible experience, and I was really enjoying the moment because it felt like a rare opportunity. I embraced the moment and in that moment if felt surreal, never once did i think that this will ruin my relationship.

After the concert, my boyfriend didn’t mention much about the lap dance, so I thought everything was fine. However, later that evening, he posted a video of the lap dance on TikTok. It went viral almost immediately, and the comments were filled with comments from young immature teenagers saying that he should break up with me and that i dont “respect” him enough. They were making stupid comments and even suggesting that he should break up with me because of it. And sadly they got to his head.

A few days later, my boyfriend broke up with me. He said he couldn’t handle the negativity and felt uncomfortable with what had happened, even tho he didn’t have a problem with it when it happened. Despite my efforts to explain that it was a fun and harmless part of the concert and that he should be happy for me instead of listening to children on tiktok, but he was adamant about ending the relationship.

Fast forward to now, and I’m in a new relationship. Recently, the topic of my previous breakup came up with my new boyfriend. To my surprise, he said he thinks my ex was right and that I was in the wrong. He feels that my reaction to the lap dance was inappropriate and that I should have been more considerate of how others might perceive it.

I’m feeling really hurt and confused. At the time, I saw the lap dance as a special and enjoyable experience, not something that should cause problems in a relationship. Now, I’m questioning if maybe I did miss something significant. I thought I was just participating in a once in a lifetime experience, but my new boyfriend’s perspective has me wondering if I made a mistake.

So, AITA for letting Chris Brown give me a lap dance on stage?

edit: people in the dms have been asking me about the video, i think my ex deleted it but i just checked and an account called @ilovebreexy on tiktok has it, posted on 2023-2-12